Your Local Villain Has Thoughts About Hate…

Blog/ Scrapbook Entry No.8

Anger is… a lot.
The more I write and think about it, the more I’m convinced it’s harder to get over than sadness.
Maybe even harder than love.

I know — HOT TAKE.
But seriously, hear me out.

Hurt usually doesn’t stay just hurt.
It turns into anger.
Anger hangs out a little too long and becomes bitterness.
Bitterness becomes resentment.
And resentment eventually shrugs and goes,
“Fine, whatever,”
and that’s when you land in indifference.

Notice I didn’t say forgiveness.

The road from hate to forgiveness?
Almost no one’s on it.
But the road to indifference?
Bumper-to-bumper traffic.

Because honestly, it’s way easier to pretend you don’t care than to actually deal with feelings.
It’s easier to say “I’m over it” than to actually be over it.

And eventually the whole thing just goes numb.
Like a TV show you used to watch that got canceled mid-season.
You just… stop tuning in. (RIP Kim of queens)

And here’s the thing — sometimes that’s not bad.
Sometimes indifference is the only way to stop replaying the story over and over in your head.

But we grow up on Disney, right?
Believing everything can be fixed,
that forgiveness is the finish line.

And then life happens.
Real life is messy.
Grey.
Complicated.
Cuts bleed.
Scars stay.
And words stick around. (A bit dreadful there, Alivia…)

People are made up of all the things that happened to them —
and how they deal with those things is different for everyone.
Some people can forgive.
Others can’t.
And that’s fine.

But hate?
You can’t live there forever.

It doesn’t make you better.
It doesn’t make life lighter.

So find your way out —
whether that’s indifference, forgiveness, humor,
or something else entirely.

I haven’t walked in your boots.
You haven’t walked a mile in my heels.

But whatever shoes you’re wearing,
I’m rooting for you to keep going.

Until next time,

Alivia Hadfield